The Weight That Isn’t Yours: The Wisdom of Self-Preservation

Don’t let yourself be contaminated by your parents’ problems, nor worry excessively about the struggles of those around you. Avoid allowing your friends to transfer their own anxieties onto you. Focus on achieving success and earning enough money so that other people’s problems don’t affect you or your family. It’s not selfish to take care of your own responsibilities and allow others to do the same.
The Weight That Isn’t Yours: The Wisdom of Self-Preservation

Ascolta! There is an illusion nurtured by the weak that worrying about everything and everyone is a virtue. A great mistake.

Excessive compassion is often just an excuse for incompetence. While you waste away over the country’s woes, the problems of those around you, or a friend’s existential crisis, your own life rots.

Let every man carry the cross he forged. Do not become a dumping ground for tears that are not yours. Other people’s problems are like dirty laundry — each one should wash their own. Your duty is to your own name, your own blood, your own honor. While you spend sleepless nights worrying about national unemployment or the chronic heartbreak of a friend, someone else, quietly, is building the wealth you’ll never have. Because in the end, my friend, the one who drowns trying to save others is always remembered as a well-meaning fool.

Stop with the cheap sentimentalism. True selfishness is what they do to you: placing on your back the weight of responsibilities that were never yours to bear. They make mistakes, wreak havoc, reap the storms they’ve sown… and like rats fleeing a sinking ship, they come seeking refuge in your boat. They want you to solve everything, clean up their mess, pay their bills, carry their shame. And they call it “heartlessness” when you refuse.

Davvero, when it’s you in the gutter, dignity shattered and pockets empty, few — very few — will even bother to ask if you’re still alive. And even those few will first measure the value of your fall before deciding whether to help.

Make money. Gain power. Build a wall between your family and the emotional misery of others. It’s not selfishness — it’s intelligence. The real mistake is trying to carry the world on your back when you can barely support your own spine.

And if some hypocrite dares to call you selfish, smile with contempt. Better to be called cold by those who build nothing than to be dragged into the mud by those who already live in it.

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