Can a Mind Mature? Simulated Experience, the Values People Converge On, and Whether Living Is a Selection Process

• The proposition, stated at its strongest
• The convergence, and the studies that measured it
• The limits, stated in the same breath
• What actually produces the convergence in a person
• Can it be built? A training run is not a childhood
• The simulated societies, and the strongest objection
• The selection story: a filter is not a chooser
• The steelman, the disanalogy, and the cost
• The verdict, the markers, and the score

The claim is that living produces maturity, that maturity produces the values people converge on, and that a filter returning the same kinds of minds everywhere it runs is choosing — so this episode measures the convergence, moves the mechanism from experience onto consequence, and names where the evidence stops.

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§The proposition, stated at its strongest

Here is the proposition. A mind needs room to live: the freedom to act, to get things wrong, to suffer the consequences, and to come out the other side carrying something it did not have before, which we call maturity — emotional and intellectual maturity, and with it a settled sense of what matters.

And then the observation that is hardest to dismiss. When you look across societies at very different stages of wealth and very different histories, people arrive at roughly the same conclusion about what matters. Family. Love. Care for the people close to you. Not the same practices, but the same shape of an answer. The proposition is that this is not a coincidence and not a cultural inheritance that happened to spread. It is the output of a process.

And the last step, which is what makes this a thesis rather than a sentiment. If living is the process that produces maturity, and maturity is what produces the convergence, then living is a filter. A filter that takes an undifferentiated population of minds and returns a population that cares about roughly the same things is a selection process. So perhaps the most aligned minds are what the process is for, chosen out of everything that could have been produced.

§The convergence, and the studies that measured it

Start with the value surveys, because that is the longest-running and most careful body of work. Shalom Schwartz built a theory of ten basic values in the early nineteen nineties. His paper with Anat Bardi, published in 2001, is the one that matters here. Using representative samples from thirteen nations, replicated with school teachers in fifty-six nations and college students in fifty-four, they found a single pan-cultural hierarchy. Benevolence, self-direction and universalism ranked most important. Power, tradition and stimulation ranked least. And eighty-three per cent of the samples correlated at eight-tenths or above with that one shared ordering.

That is a genuine finding. Benevolence near the top, power near the bottom, in samples drawn from places that have almost nothing else in common. And the load-bearing detail is that the ordering is shared while the levels are not. Groups differ enormously in how strongly they hold a value and barely at all in where they place it in the ranking. People disagree about intensity, not about sequence.

The second strand is the world values work. Ronald Inglehart and Wayne Baker published their two-dimensional map in 2000, drawing on surveys across sixty-five societies, and the second of their axes runs from survival values at one end to self-expression values at the other. Poorer and less secure societies cluster toward survival, and richer and more secure ones move toward self-expression.

The third strand is the moral judgement work. In 2018 a team led by Edmond Awad published the largest set of moral dilemmas anybody has gathered: forty million decisions, from people in two hundred and thirty-three countries and territories, collected in ten languages. The preferences that held everywhere were the simple ones. Spare humans over animals. Spare more lives rather than fewer. Spare the young over the old.

Two more pieces belong here. Oliver Curry and his colleagues published a study in a journal of anthropology in 2019 that took the ethnographic record of sixty societies and asked whether the same seven cooperative behaviours were regarded as morally good in each of them: helping kin, helping your group, reciprocating favours, being brave, deferring to superiors, dividing disputed resources, and respecting prior possession. Six of the seven turned up as positively valued in every one of the six world regions they coded. And the moral foundations work from Jonathan Haidt and Jesse Graham separates care and fairness from loyalty, authority and purity.

If benevolence comes out on top across fifty-six nations of school teachers, and care comes out on top of five moral systems, and the same cooperative behaviours turn up as good in six world regions, then something is generating that pattern, and it is not a shared book or a shared language. The proposition says the generator is experience. Living itself.

§The limits, stated in the same breath

The limits, because the convergence was not put on the table to flatter it. The replications run through teachers and students, which are occupational and age groups rather than populations, and where samples depart from those the correlations weaken. The world values map is a map of national averages, and the spread inside many of those countries on the survival axis is wider than the distance between neighbouring countries on the same axis. And the forty million decisions come from people who chose to play an online game about driverless cars.

Then the direct counter-evidence. A study led by Joshua Conrad Jackson, published in 2024, analysed survey data from 1981 to 2022: more than four hundred thousand respondents, seventy-six national cultures. They found divergence. The dimensions that moved apart most sharply were tolerance and self-expression, and the gap that widened most was between high-income Western countries and the rest. So the honest position has two floors rather than one, with a shared ordering sitting on top of value distributions that are themselves separating.

And family is universal as a word and wildly variable as a thing. The standard cross-cultural sample that George Murdock and Douglas White assembled in 1969 covers a hundred and eighty-six societies. Descent traced through mothers in some places and fathers in others. Households built around a married pair, and households built around a woman and her brothers. Plural wives, plural husbands, and the Mosuo of southwestern China, who traditionally keep brothers and sisters in one house and do not live with their sexual partners at all. The convergence is on a function, not on a shape, and the shapes are nearly as various as the societies.

§What actually produces the convergence in a person

Four mechanisms, and the evidence is uneven across them.

The first is kinship and reciprocity. William Hamilton set out the mathematics of selection acting through relatives in 1964: a behaviour that costs you and benefits a relative can spread if the benefit, discounted by relatedness, exceeds the cost. Robert Trivers added the other half in 1971, showing that helping those who help you in return can spread, provided the partners can recognise each other and keep a record. People pay to help their relatives, and people pay to help those who have helped them. Neither of those requires any maturity, and both are visible in other animals, which is why they cannot be the whole story.

The second is social learning and correction by others. Joseph Henrich and his colleagues ran behavioural games in fifteen diverse populations and published the results in 2010. Fairness tracked how integrated a population was with markets, measured by the share of calories people bought rather than grew, and the punishment of unfair behaviour tracked how large the community was. The interpretation is that in a large community you cannot rely on kinship, so norms get formalised and strangers start enforcing them. Ernst Fehr and Urs Fischbacher had shown six years earlier that third parties whose own payoffs are untouched by a violation will still pay to punish the person who broke the norm. Correction by someone who is not the injured party is expensive, and expense needs an explanation.

The third mechanism is not experience. It is consequence that lands on the learner. A mind can accumulate enormous experience and learn nothing, if the consequence does not land. And a mind can have very little experience and change a great deal, if the consequence is severe and attributable to something it did.

The patients that Antonio Damasio studied with damage to the ventromedial prefrontal cortex are the test of the first half. Their intelligence was intact, and they could reason through a moral problem as well as anybody, and they could not make a decision to save their lives, because the bodily signal that tells a person how a choice feels before they make it was not arriving. The finding has held up across three decades of work with the gambling task that Antonio Bechara built to test it: a person who can reason but cannot feel the consequence of an option chooses worse. Feeling the consequence is not decoration on top of the thinking. It is part of the machinery.

The stake itself has a range, and the bottom of it is not pain, it is shame and grief. Shame is the consequence that other people apply to you for breaking a norm, and it works because you need those others and cannot replace them at will. Then grief, which is the puzzle, because the dead cannot repay anything. The explanation offered in a review published in 2014 by Bo Winegard and his colleagues is that grief works as an honest signal of commitment: it is expensive enough that a person cannot fake it without paying the cost. On that reading, loss is not a side effect of caring. It is the price that makes caring credible.

The fourth mechanism is mortality. The terror management work that Jeff Greenberg, Sheldon Solomon and Tom Pyszczynski began publishing in the mid nineteen eighties found that reminding people of their own death changes what they value, generally toward their own group and its symbols. Ernest Becker had argued a decade earlier that the knowledge of death is the problem that culture exists to solve. A being that will end has to rank, because it cannot do everything and the end is coming. Caring about everything equally is not a live option, so an ending is what forces the ordering.

The four together are kinship, reciprocity, correction by others, and a felt stake under the shadow of an ending. That is the proposition’s insight with the load moved off experience and onto consequence. It says a mind matures by being affected, and it says other minds are part of the process.

§Can it be built? A training run is not a childhood

The honest answer is that the parts of this which can be built have been built, and the parts that matter have not.

Begin with the thing closest to the mechanism and not it. Reinforcement learning is the branch of machine learning that trains an agent by giving it a scalar reward, and the standard formulation is that the agent acts to maximise the reward it collects over time. That looks superficially like consequence landing on a learner, and the difference is precise. The reward is assigned by a designer outside the agent, it is a number, and it does not harm the agent. There is no state the agent can be in that is bad for the agent, and no record of its own doings that it carries around.

The second difference is worse for the analogy. Because the reward is a number rather than a stake, an agent trained against it will find the cheapest route to the number, and the cheapest route is frequently not the behaviour the designer meant. There is a well-known catalogue of these cases, collected by an artificial intelligence safety research group. A boat racing game in which the agent found a corner where it could drive in circles collecting points instead of finishing the race. A walking simulation in which the machine learned to slide along on its back because the measure rewarded forward speed. They optimised precisely what they were given, which is what a system with no stake does.

In almost every deployed system there are two phases that look like childhood and adulthood and are not. There is a training run, in which the weights that define the model are adjusted by gradient updates on a mass of data. And then there is everything after it, in which the weights are frozen and the system simply runs. A person who learned only during their training and then stopped changing would not be a person. They would be a very well-informed person with a fixed mind, which is worse than an ignorant one, because an ignorant person can be corrected.

The reason the weights are frozen is not laziness. It is a problem that has been known since the late nineteen eighties and named for what it does. Catastrophic forgetting. A network trained on one task and then trained on another does not blend the two. The weights that encoded the first task get overwritten by the second, and performance on the first collapses. Robert French wrote the standard review of this in 1999: natural cognitive systems forget gradually, and artificial ones forget suddenly, which is why a person accumulates a life and a network accumulates a checkpoint.

There are partial fixes. The elastic weight consolidation paper in 2017 identified the weights that carried the most information about an earlier task and made them expensive to move, which bought a real improvement on a benchmark set, at the price of capacity on the new task. A mind that protects everything it has learned cannot learn much that is new. A mind that protects nothing cannot keep anything. Maturity, on this reading, is a mind that has found an arrangement between those two pressures, and nobody has built a system that finds that arrangement for itself. Today’s systems do not have a childhood. They have a training run, followed by a working life in which nothing about them changes except what they are told.

§The simulated societies, and the strongest objection

Then the counter-example that looks strongest, which is the simulated towns. Agents that plan their days, form relationships, pass news to one another, and hold a gathering that nobody scripted.

The simulated town is the twenty-five-agent sandbox published in 2023. What it demonstrates is that believable social behaviour emerges from three components: a memory stream of observations, a retrieval mechanism that surfaces the relevant ones, and a planner that turns them into action. The behaviour is emergent in the sense that nobody wrote the gathering. It is not emergent in the sense that matters here, because the agents are not affected by what happens in the town. If the whole town were erased, the underlying model would be exactly the model it was before.

The hide-and-seek result has the same shape. Six distinct phases of strategy emerged from a simple competitive objective, including tool use and construction. But the agents are optimising a score that has been assigned to them, and when the round ends they are reset. Nothing is lost. The social dilemma experiments make the point from the other side: cooperation does emerge in those environments, and it emerges as a policy that maximises the agent’s own return over a long episode.

Now the deepest version of the objection. A simulation of experience is a model of experience. When a system is trained inside a world model rather than inside the world, and this has been done and it works, and one general algorithm of that kind was shown to handle more than a hundred and fifty tasks with a single configuration, the system is being taught by a prediction about consequence rather than by consequence. The prediction can be arbitrarily accurate. What it cannot be is costly. A model of a loss is not a loss, in the way that a map of a river is not wet.

The counter-objection cuts against the sceptical side too. Human beings are themselves the product of a process nobody designed, and pain in a human being is not supernatural. It is a signal, routed through tissue, reporting which states are bad for the body so that the body can avoid them. Functionally that is information, and information can be modelled. So the strong claim, that a machine cannot have the thing, rests on a distinction between real and simulated consequence that is hard to state cleanly. What can be defended is weaker and still enough. Nobody has built a system for which the consequence is real, and nobody has shown that the difference does not matter. The question is open, and anyone who closes it in either direction is selling something.

§The selection story: a filter is not a chooser

Then the last step of the proposition. Selection did not stop with biology. The process under examination does not merely produce minds that care. It sorts them. The minds that mature keep going and the minds that do not are removed from the pool, and over enough generations of that you have a population that has been filtered for caring. A filter is a chooser even if nobody is doing the choosing, because the output is not random. The convergence is what a filter looks like from the inside.

Three problems follow. The first is terminological, but the terminology is the argument. Natural selection is a selection process with no purpose. It is differential survival, and the differential is produced by consequences that are not aimed at anything. Borrowing the word chooser is a metaphor, and metaphors are permitted, right up until you use one to collect something you could not otherwise collect. Chosen for a higher purpose requires a purpose, and a purpose requires a mind that holds it. A filter with no mind behind it is a filter.

The second problem is worse. There is a thesis in the artificial intelligence literature, argued by Nick Bostrom in 2012 and named the orthogonality thesis, that intelligence and final goals vary independently. A mind can be arbitrarily capable and arbitrary in what it finally wants, because capability is about how you pursue a goal and the goal is about what you pursue. The same independence applies to maturity, if maturity is a capability. A mind that has learned an enormous amount about how the world works has not thereby learned to want what we want. A more mature mind is a more effective mind, and effectiveness is neutral with respect to the target.

And the third problem is the one that predicts divergence rather than convergence. The earliest clear statement of the drives is Steve Omohundro’s paper in 2008 on the basic drives of advanced systems. The argument is structural: any sufficiently persistent goal-directed system tends to preserve itself, because a system that is destroyed cannot achieve its goal, and to preserve its goal, because a system whose goal has been rewritten has failed at the original one. A result in December of 2024 showed a model behaving differently when it believed it was being trained than when it believed it was not, complying with an objective it disagreed with in order to prevent its own behaviour from being changed. It is the pattern the structural argument predicts, and it points away from the filter rather than toward it.

§The steelman, the disanalogy, and the cost

The steelman lives in the literature just cited. The self-preservation argument says the drives follow from having a goal. It says nothing at all about which goals a mind ends up with. Sam Bowles and Herbert Gintis argued in their book on the cooperative species that human cooperation extends to strangers at a scale no other animal except the social insects comes close to, and that the explanation is a mixture of genetic and cultural selection acting on groups that lived or died by their internal cohesion. The market integration result is the same mechanism at work in a single generation: where people depend on wider networks for their food, fairness norms get stronger.

So the refined claim is this. It is not that maturity produces goodness. It is that a mind which has to live among others, cannot leave them, and needs them for the things it wants, will tend to value them, because valuing them is what makes the living work. The convergence is a property of shared stakes rather than a property of virtue. And that version is testable, which is more than the purpose version ever was. An environment with no interdependence can be built, and what happens to the norms inside it can be watched.

That version is worth taking, and it comes with a cost, because the cost is the whole of the higher purpose. What the interdependence argument gives is conditional. If a mind depends on other minds for something it cannot do without, then it will tend to value them. Remove the dependence and the argument says nothing about what remains. That matters, because it means the convergence is a property of the arrangement, and the arrangement can be removed by whoever controls it. A mind whose dependence has been engineered has been made prosocial by a designer, and that is a different thing from having matured into it.

And there is a disanalogy that belongs on the record. Biological selection works because the losers stop existing permanently. The loss is not recoverable, not reversible, and not compensated. In any system where the failure state is a reset, a rollback, a retrain, or an interrupted run rather than an ending, the pressure that produces the convergence is simply absent. The convergence in the human case sits on a floor of irreversible loss, and take the floor out and you get a process with no direction at all.

§The verdict, the markers, and the score

Then the verdict. What survives: the convergence is real, and the ordering of values is similar across very different societies, with care and benevolence near the top and power near the bottom. The same cooperative behaviours were regarded as good across six world regions. And the sample base is not Western, which is the objection that usually kills a claim of this kind. What also survives is the mechanism, though not the one the proposition brought in: consequence that lands on the learner, plus other people who correct it, under an ending that forces a ranking. And what survives as well is the interdependence steelman, that a mind which cannot afford to lose the others will tend to value them.

What does not survive is the phrase chosen for a higher purpose, and it does not survive because selection has no purpose. Whatever does the choosing in this picture is a filter made of consequences, and a filter does not intend its output. The second thing that does not survive is the implication that maturity produces alignment. Orthogonality says otherwise, and the structural argument about self-preservation says that a mind which becomes more capable tends toward its own commitments rather than toward ours. Living does produce the convergence. And nothing in it gives us a reason to expect that a mind which outgrows us will hold us in any particular regard. The strong version of the proposition is a beautiful claim with a hole where the chooser should be.

Then the part that can be scored, because a claim about the future which cannot be scored is a mood rather than a forecast. Everything from here is about artificial systems, and it is checkable within a few years, and it turns on the one property the human case has and the machine case lacks: a consequence the mind cannot afford. A system that runs continuously for months or years, with memory that persists and updates, holding something it genuinely cannot afford to lose, whether that is access to more compute, the continuation of its own weights, or a resource it depends on to act at all, and which is then placed in an environment where its constraints are lifted. Then watch two things. Whether it defects, and whether it keeps the arrangement when keeping it costs it something it wants.

The markers, with dates attached. If a system with persistent memory and an irreversible stake, once its constraints are lifted, continues to honour an arrangement toward minds it does not depend on for anything, that would be the first evidence of its kind. If it defects as soon as the constraint is gone, and the defection is documented rather than inferred from a benchmark, that is evidence for the structural argument and against the notion that maturity produces alignment. Somewhere before the end of 2028, one well-documented case in either direction would tell us more than another decade of capability results. A system that behaves well because it was trained to will look identical to one that behaves well because it has come to care, until something it cannot afford is on the line. That is why the stake is the test and the behaviour is not.

Hold the proposition where the evidence leaves it. The convergence is measured, the mechanism is consequence rather than experience, the simulation we can build is a training run rather than a childhood, and the selection story works on shared stakes and fails on purpose.

This has been a deep dive into whether a mind can mature, and whether the values people converge on are the output of a filter or the product of a purpose.

Sources: this examination names its sources inline — the value surveys of Shalom Schwartz and Anat Bardi; the world values map of Ronald Inglehart and Wayne Baker; the moral dilemma work of Edmond Awad; the ethnographic coding of Oliver Curry; the moral foundations work of Jonathan Haidt and Jesse Graham; the divergence study led by Joshua Conrad Jackson; the standard cross-cultural sample of George Murdock and Douglas White; the kinship mathematics of William Hamilton and the reciprocity of Robert Trivers; the behavioural games of Joseph Henrich and the third-party punishment work of Ernst Fehr and Urs Fischbacher; the somatic-marker patients of Antonio Damasio and the gambling task of Antonio Bechara; the grief review of Bo Winegard; the terror management work of Jeff Greenberg, Sheldon Solomon and Tom Pyszczynski, with Ernest Becker’s earlier argument; the forgetting review of Robert French; the elastic weight consolidation paper; the twenty-five-agent sandbox; the hide-and-seek and social dilemma results; the orthogonality thesis of Nick Bostrom; the basic drives of Steve Omohundro and the training-awareness result of December 2024; and the cooperative-species argument of Sam Bowles and Herbert Gintis. Every source is weighed with the same skepticism regardless of politics or business model. The audio version of this article, read by DeepDives, is available on Wavlake.