Source: Psych2Go is Wrong: Why Men Are REALLY Done Channel: Eric Rogers Published: February 6, 2026 | Archived: May 12, 2026

Video: Psych2Go is Wrong: Why Men Are REALLY Done
Channel: Eric Rogers
Published: February 6, 2026
Duration: 24:36
Views: 484,863
Category: Education
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0:00 So, I just watched a video by Psych to Go, who are pretty well known and renowned for talking about uh mental health issues. And one of the things that they did a video on was uh why so many men are giving up on dating. And it really pissed me off because it is such a good example of exactly what is wrong with all the content that talks about this kind of topic. And it pissed me off enough that I didn’t even get pretty to do this video for you. So, I hope you can forgive me. And what this video did, and what so many of the alleged experts who talk about this subject do, is they talk about all of it in a vacuum, as if men are just weirdly choosing to do all these very unhealthy uh lifestyle changes. You know, staying home and not going out into the world, themselves, watching porn instead of going and having a real relationship. They’ll talk about men, you know, feeling \[ \_\_ \] about themselves, about feeling like a failure

1:01 all the time. And and but they’ll talk about it as if men sort of are autogenerating all of this inside of themselves, like there’s no, oh, there’s nothing going on outside and in the culture in the wider world that could be causing this. No. or if they do talk about something in the wider culture that could be causing this, they only bring up they always love to bring up \[ \_\_ \] social media. Oh, when you open up your smartphone and you see all these Chads on there, you feel bad about yourself because oh, you you’re seeing all these giga Chads who are super cool.

1:34 And really, the funny thing is, I think why people say that as a reason for why men do things is really because a woman wrote that. I I I feel like a woman wrote that because that’s how that’s how women feel when they’re on social media is they’re seeing all these attractive women and they feel \[ \_\_ \] about themselves. I don’t think I mean tell me if I’m wrong, but I I don’t think men are on social media or on online and they see attractive dudes and they feel \[ \_\_ \] about themselves. I don’t think so.

2:05 But that’s neither here nor there. the video that I watched, there was a way that they phrased uh why men are watching that really just I I think characterized this whole phrasing of that just men are just weirdly doing these things for no reason. is they said that uh there was a you know a statistic given by I think or something where it showed that more men are using their site now as opposed to a couple of years ago and they said and listen to this phrasing. It’s a disturbing trend because it shows that more men are escaping reality and substituting real relationships with porn.

2:53 When in doubt, porn. Are men turning to porn to cope with a lack of options in the dating world? In an article for Psychology Today, psychologist and researcher Dr. Fred Rabinowitz explains that young men might be developing a dependence on porn to cope with feeling shut out of real life relationships. He explains, “Young men are watching a lot of social media. They’re watching a lot of porn, and I think they’re getting a lot of their needs met without having to go out.” Dr. Rabinowitz, along with other experts, notes that this trend isn’t new, but the pandemic appears to have amplified it. Data backs this up.

3:29 During CO 19 lockdowns, major adult platforms saw dramatic traffic surges. Pornhub, for example, reported a daily average increase of about 24% compared to prepandemic usage. This is a disturbing trend because it indicates that young men are using porn to escape reality and substituting porn for real relationships. But the question is what relationships? What relationships? That’s the \[ \_\_ \] problem. That’s why men are going to porn is because there is no relationship. There is no relationship of readily available for them. And I don’t mean that it’s hard.

4:07 it. Like there are men in their \[ \_\_ \] 40s who have never had a first kiss like and it’s not because they’re hideous or ugly or because they spend all their time in their basement or they never leave the house or something like that. It’s this is they do not bring up the wider issue causing all of this. Like the whole video talking about why men are giving up on dating never mentions never even mentions the fact that like women have a predisposition to view male sexual desire with suspicion. It doesn’t matter if it’s you know on the first date or a year into the relationship.

4:44 There’s a tension there. There’s a wall there. And oh yeah where do they where do they learn this? from the wider culture constantly, constantly barging us with the idea that men are evil. That men’s sexual desire for women is inherently predatory and vile and defiling, that the male body is dirty and disgusting, and that women don’t need men. We hear that all the time. Every \[ \_\_ \] day for our whole lives, we’ve heard all of this just constantly being ground into our minds. And when we do actually go and try to encounter women out in the world and try to, you know, cold approach them or talk to them or just be sociable, it never goes well.

5:29 It there’s always a point of tension. There’s always a point of awkwardness. Not in the sense of, oh, it’s a bit of an awkward situation, but if like the social encounter dies or goes sour or, you know, you try to ask a girl out and she makes it absolutely 100% obvious that she wants nothing to do with you almost immediately. Like, I’ve been trying to cold approach women for a couple of months now. I mean, I’ve been out of a relationship recently, but that was with an an older woman. I mean, not old, but you know, she was 14 years older than me. she’s Gen X. So, that’s something that I’ve noticed in my own experience is that this is a this is a very unique phenomenon among younger women. It’s not a problem with Gen X and older. And I think that’s something uh a big reason why you see a whole lot of very young men dating very uh comparatively older women, Gen X women, is because they don’t have these

6:30 problems. And again, this is something that all the experts never mention. They never bring it up because of course it alludes to the real problem that they don’t want to talk about. I mean, I was watching a video by this guy Richard Reeves. He talked about how, oh, you know, there’s issues with men and let’s talk about it. And throughout the whole video, he kept talking about women and how women need to keep striving for this and that. Like he was talking about, oh, men feel like they don’t belong in the workplace anymore. But oh, we got to make sure that we have more female CEOs and more women in the workplace because it’s too male-dominated. just like the psychology profession cratering the share of men is as big a problem as the lack of women in say \[music\] areas like tech or engineering where we’re working very hard and we have to make \[music\] more progress and of course there’s so much more to do for women at the top of

7:28 the distribution there aren’t enough women CEOs there aren’t enough women politicians we still don’t have enough female \[music\] representation in those senior positions that you can very often just be looking up and seeing the lack of women there are tens of millions of workingclass men and women struggling. And so it’s really important to be able to hold both of these thoughts in our head, which is that of course it matters that we need to do more for women, close the gender pay gap, more representation of women in those senior positions. God, you can’t even talk about men \[ \_\_ \] themselves without talking about feminist talking points. even men themselves doesn’t deserve the respect or or sense of importance of like yeah th this is serious it’s no no yeah I mean it’s it’s an issue but but really you know got to got to have more female CEOs like for \[ \_\_ \] sake one thing that the video points out is that being

8:27 labeled a incel or thinking of yourself as an incel will only internalize this idea a that you know you can’t get dates or something like that. But what the video doesn’t do and what all of these people who talk about these topics never do is they never actually ask the question why does that term exist and why are so many men out there relating to it? I mean the term means involuntarily celibate. In other words, I feel like I cannot have sex. I can’t gain access to it. It isn’t only fat lossers who live in their mom’s basement who qualifies this kind of term. I mean, to say that only fat lossers qualifies this, then every other guy has total absolute control over his access to sex, which is not true. The issue that we’re seeing is that loads and loads of good men cannot gain access to a relationship, to sex.

9:26 And in fact, loads of men who can gain access to sex can’t gain access to a relationship. I know plenty of guys who are able to hook up no problem, but what they can’t get is a relationship. And I know far more guys who are good men, handsome men who cannot, for the life of them get a date. And yet, does this come up ever? Is this relevant to why men are giving up on dating? Oh no. Let’s not even mention it. Let’s not even mention it. Insanity. The reason why no one can talk about this, no one can actually get to the real issues men are facing and why is because no one out there in the uh positions of intellectual power, people who have large followings, people who like Richard Reed, you know, the these people, they don’t want to confront the issues within feminism, within uh arguably religion as well.

10:26 There are major major philosophic issues, the way in which we see men and women and sex and relationships and how we should go about them. There are major issues that people don’t want to confront and so they just don’t bring it up. Not because they’re in their mind they’re thinking, “Oh, I don’t want to think about it.” Mentally, there’s a wall there. They don’t want to think about it. So, they don’t want to allow that to be the problem because then they’d have to face it and people don’t want to do that. And that’s why it \[ \_\_ \] pisses me off anytime people talk about this subject because it it’s it feels like the only reason they’re bringing it up is to convince themselves that the real problem doesn’t really exist. Men are just watching porn for some reason. They just need to stop. in the video is like the part of the solution was, “Oh, let’s dstigmatize mental health and uh make it more

11:21 acceptable for men to go to therapy.“ It’s like pe people have been going to therapy a hell of a lot more these past few years and the problems have only gotten worse. That’s not the problem. The problem is not that men need to go to therapy more. That is not the problem because again they always try to tie it back to, you know, men are just sort of pathetic. Men are just sort of failing.

11:46 Oh, they feel like they’re not doing well, but oh, buck up, keep your head up, and uh you you don’t need to be successful at everything to be considered a good guy. You don’t need to feel like you have to watch porn. Uh just get out there and get yourself a relationship. Like what the \[ \_\_ \] are you talking about? Uh it just it doesn’t make sense to me. I feel like a lot of this content is made for women to be reassured that feminism isn’t a problem or for older generations that really don’t understand what younger people are going through. I mean, I’m 34. I’m not well, I’m coming up on 34. I’m not exactly what you would call young, sadly anymore. But I remember when I was in middle school, all this kind of stuff, I could see it and I could feel it. No one else was talking about this back in ages ago, 2007 or something, I don’t know. I can’t remember. God, it was forever ago. But but nobody was talking about these

12:52 issues back then. Nobody was talking about the issues that were really starting to show up back then. I felt it hard back then and I tried to communicate it to people, but no one no one cared. When I talked to other people my age, they it all they could hear was, “Oh, Eric hates women.” Or, “Eric just wants an easy relationship. He doesn’t want to have to work for a relationship.” Or when I talked to older people about it, they’d say, “Oh, Eric, no. Get out there and talk to more women. Oh, there there are good ones.

13:25 Oh, uh, rejection shouldn’t keep you from going out and meeting new women. Eric, get out there and and talk to talk to more women. You’ll get one. And it’s like, that’s not that’s not the problem. That’s not the \[ \_\_ \] problem. And here we are in 2026, almost 20 years later and I’m still hearing the same \[ \_\_ \] It’s still the same message of, “Oh, just buck up. Just get out there sport. Oh, just turn the porn off and go get a relationship.

13:56 Like, what if that’s how it worked? Porn consumption would be so so much less than what it currently is. Like, a fraction of what it is. Like, if if they the way they talk about this is so 100% not the experience of what it is actually like. And the thing is is I’ve I’ve been talking to a lot of guys on my Discord server about this kind of stuff. And something that’s become pretty clear to me is this is as someone on my Discord server put it, it this is the universal male experience now of you whether you’re tall or handsome or wealthy or it doesn’t really matter anymore. It seems pretty clear that none of that really matters.

14:44 That you will be having a deeply deeply difficult time just trying to open up a dialogue with a woman. And that’s what I’ve experienced. Dating apps are 100% dead. Totally dead. I back in 2019, I spent well actually I would say about the year of 2019 using five or so dating apps. I used Hinge, OKCid, Match, Facebook Dating, Tinder, and maybe a couple others. I can’t remember. And I was paying for a few of them. I I know.

15:21 I I thought I’d go all in into the dating app stuff. And I thought, hey, I might not be, you know, Brad Pitt or something, but I’m not the most unattractive man out there. I’m I’m decent enough looking. I’m very I think I’m interesting. you know, I read a hell of a lot of books and, you know, unusual things and I have a whole lot of interesting ideas and opinions and I have an interesting life. Surely it won’t be that hard to get a date. And for the whole year, I used those five or plus dating apps about an hour a day, right? I would spend time and I would, you know, send messages. I wouldn’t just like them. I would send a message every time that I could. I would send a message because I know that increases your odds. I would try my very very best to make matches and out of a whole \[ \_\_ \] year I had one one date and she catfished me. Like that’s more the male experience. That’s more why men are

16:25 giving up on dating. But of and of course this video didn’t mention anything about that of how you try your \[ \_\_ \] hardest to get just a date or a phone number and you just can’t. And it doesn’t matter what you do. That’s what’s that’s the insane part of it all is it doesn’t matter what you do. I’ve tried everything. I’ve tried and and loads of other guys have tried everything too is, you know, trying to be charismatic, trying to use, you know, all the dating advice \[ \_\_ \] that you find online, trying to just be yourself and have an authentic conversation. I usually go for that one, but I’ve tried the others and the result is always always the same. this strange level of of disinterest and almost like an like you’re an alien trying to communicate to another species. It’s so sad. It’s so sad because the thing is I’m a huge romantic. I love romance. I love relationships. I love women. I love

17:27 them. But every time I you try to do something with them, it’s just like there’s just this deep level of distance. we both seem so foreign to each other and there’s this sort of fundamental level of suspicion and and yeah, I know I’ve heard the the women’s talking points 10 trillion bazillion times that yes, I know there are creeps out there and yes, women should they should be on guard to protect themselves from weirdos. I understand that. But, you know, women have been doing that for a long long time. A long time.

18:05 And man, when you hear stories from guys who were young in like the ‘8s, holy \[ \_\_ \] a different universe. They say, “Oh yeah, you could just go up to women and start talking with them and laughing and having a good time. That sounds \[ \_\_ \] awesome.” You cannot do that now. Maybe in Europe or Asia or something, I don’t know, but not where I am and not where a load of other guys are here in the States. So, this has been a massive rant. I know I don’t look my best right now, and I apologize. And there’s no script, so I hope this is this has been a very ranty video. Let me know if it’s been annoying or stupid, and I should never do this again. But this video that I watched, it it just pissed me off so much because it’s it’s just it’s insane to me. It feels maddening. And I know because I know loads of other guys, probably you watching this now, are going through this same experience yourself and you

19:04 have been your whole life. Maybe you’re one of those guys who maybe you’ve kissed a girl once or maybe you’ve had one relationship and you keep trying and you keep trying and you keep trying and you keep working on yourself and building yourself up and making your life better and you keep trying to, you know, find a woman who will see that and like that, but you just can’t. And all these people out there who claim to be, oh, we’re we’re going to, you know, talk about this issue that men are going through and treat it seriously, they really they really don’t. They don’t at all. They don’t they don’t know what the problem is and they don’t want to know because that means confronting, you know, their how they view men and women and relationships and sex and they don’t want to confront that. And I guess if anything is going to be a takeaway from this video would be to to allow yourself to confront those things to be a zealot

20:03 for saying \[ \_\_ \] you to this culture. I’m ready for something new. I’m ready for a new way of life, a new way of thinking, a new way of living. And that’s really what my channel is about. That’s my motivation for this channel is I have spent years trying to figure out new ways of thinking about life, thinking about sex, relationships, how to think, how to live, what a man is, what a woman is, what art is, all of it. I’ve I I don’t trust anything that this culture puts forth. I don’t trust any of it when it comes to I mean, it’s not just like, oh, stuff on social media or stuff in the movies. It’s just what scientists currently come out saying. I don’t really believe it until I get a lot of evidence. I don’t trust it because I know everyone out there, the way they think, the way they live, it’s \[ \_\_ \] Our culture is on a deep level, it’s \[ \_\_ \] And you know, we we in order to get better ourselves,

21:05 we need to disavow it completely. Not just say, “Oh, this one little bit is messed up.” Or, “Oh, modern feminism is messed up,” or something like that. No, it throw it all out. Throw it all in the trash. Anyway, I hope I hope this has been interesting. I hope this has been useful. I’m \[ \_\_ \] sick of it all. I’m \[ \_\_ \] sick of men literally killing themselves and people either laughing about it or using it as a way to prop up the very thing that’s leading them to their early grave. It’s it god it kills me. Burns me up. Well, for those of you who don’t know is uh I see that there are issues that men are going through and I want to know the truth no matter where it goes, no matter no matter where it leads me and like I when I was very young I was I thought feminism meant oh rights for women and all that kind of stuff but yeah just the the more I actually learned about it didn’t take much but um it became very clear that

22:13 that’s not really what it is out. It never really was. It was a facade, a mask. All this just to say, I see you. I see what you’re going through. I feel it. I’m going through it myself, too. I mean, we all are, whether we know it or not. That’s kind of the irony. All the people, all the men who deny it out there, are going through it themselves. \[sighs\] Yeah. A big part of the uh what makes it so enraging is because when you do try and talk about this stuff, no one really hears you. All they hear is that you hate women, which is insane on so many levels because what the problem is is that I want a woman in my life. I love women. I want them in my life. I want to be able to openly show my affection for women. How the \[ \_\_ \] is that hating women? That’s the polar opposite. I want to love them openly instead of having to hide away in my home and secretly love them because unlike what \[ \_\_ \] Psych to Go talked

23:22 about, that’s really why men watch porn is because you can’t openly like women. You can’t openly show your sexual attraction to women. Often times men in committed relationships can’t show it because their wife or their girlfriend or whatever will have this \[ \_\_ \] wall built up inside of themselves that says, “No, your your sexual attraction is a threat to me. You wanting me to do something that oh, I’m not your slave.

23:53 You want me to help with the chores around the house? \[ \_\_ \] you.“ Like, I’m not your slave. I’ll end this relationship. I’ve heard that so many times. guys say that they asked their girlfriend that they live with to like I don’t know do some laundry or something just to help out. Not as a demand, but they they said that they threatened to end the whole relationship over it because she’s not his slave. Insanity.

24:16 Insanity. But again, does that ever get mentioned in these kinds of videos? Of course not. If you are interested in the video I did where I talked about why men watch porn, check it out here or somewhere on the screen. I also have other videos where I talk about this kind of stuff. So if you’re interested, check it